Tuesday, March 9, 2010

start over

crap-ass-day

start-over-again

it's barely eight in the morning here, the day has gone totally awry, and i cannot find the redo button. so in the spirit of selfishness and excess, i am giving away some of my cut-and-paste bookmarks to help lift me out of the dumps. leave a comment telling me how you turn around your crap-ass mornings and and i will draw five winners at random tomorrow (wednesday) morning. coffee throwing not eligible, i've already tried that. wishing all of you a better one than i'm having!

53 comments:

lisa {milkshake} said...

If it's nice weather, I take the dog for a walk. Or, if the dog is the cause of the bad morning, I take my iPod and walk by myself. Otherwise, I roam the internet and look at pretty things. Hope your day is better!

Nina Crittenden said...

Sometimes a nice cup of tea helps, or snuggling the kids or puppy, or the phone-a -friend option... Hope your day turns around! I usually figure that if my day starts out crummy, I have nowhere to go but UP!

kitty said...

Music is all it takes for me, Aimee....totally 'UPS' me...!! Cheer up my friend!!! "Saphire and faded jeans, I hope you get your dreams, just go ahead let your hair down!!!" lalalalalal...ok gonna quit singing now....

Jenn said...

A chocolate chip scone usually does the trick.... Wine before Nine is usually frowned upon. :p

Jeannine said...

Aw, sorry the morning hasn't started well.

If the weather is nice, I'll go outside and sit in the sun, watch the birds at the feeder. Putting a groovy tune on the stereo and dancing around the room is good! I like Donna Summer! ;)

Ecobatt said...

I'm a total fan of finding myself a good old bowl of ice cream or something else sugary and inappropriate to eat for breakfast on a crap-filled morning. There is something about ice cream for me that no matter what is currently going on around me, there is at least a few moments of bliss when the fatty goodness reaches my taste buds. I'm also a big on going back to bed, jumping under the covers, counting backwards from 100, and then getting up singing "Here Comes the Sun" which is what my mother sang to us every morning when I was a kid. Even if I don't feel like singing, by the time I'm done humming and yammering along, I usually feel just a teensy bit better. All in all, I say find something that makes you remember a happy moment and go with it-down to crap-ass mornings, I had one yesterday!

Josey's mom said...

I take out my yoga mat and put on some "hell yeah" music and work it out until I work up a sweat!

Curls O Fred said...

I either like the eating something completely unhealthy approach, or a good phone call to a friend for some venting. The _____ (fill in the blank with sugary treat) doesn't respond, so that can sometimes be just what I need. But the friend generally has good outlooks and can bring my spirits up.

Kelly said...

i cuddle up in the bed and watch cartoons with my girlies. granted sometimes this makes me late for work and them rushed for school, which in some cases might ADD to the crappy mornings, but it's well worth the snuggles!

cindy said...

i'm sorry about your crap-ass morning. i might do something i know i will do well and finish - like laundry. it's weird, but i'm pretty sure i won't mess it up and in the end it's a useful task. or, i'll take some photos, which is something i get lost in. a crap-ass morning doesn't mean you will have a crap-ass day. you can turn it around. xo, c

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painted fish studio said...

I generally yell. then go back to bed. having one of those days myself...

sooz weissberg said...

Two choices:

1. Laugh. Start forced and then elaborate it crazily. Roll on the floor kicking your legs and slamming your fists. Try different laughs you've heard in your time. Don't forget snorting in between.

2. Dance. Shake your whole system up. Put on your iPod so the music is in your bones. Perform in front of a window or mirror. Make sure you shake every body part, limb, joint, and finger. Work up a sweat. Sing.

Kirstin said...

Sorry about your morning. If I can, I give myself a time-out. If that doesn't work, chocolate something and more coffee.

tink-ink said...

If I'm around other people, I give someone a sincere compliment. Their smile is a good START to making me feel a little better. If no one else is around, I give myself a compliment or work on some art - that ALWAYS makes me happy!

BT said...

Oh you poor old thing, I know just how that feels. My favourite would be to head out into the garden and do a good 'clearing up' job. Nothing fiddly, good crashing about stuff. If that's not possible, I immerse myself in a good book with a cup of tea and some chocolate! I hope things have imporoved by now. xxx

suzie said...

usually, throw in the towel and go into the city....take photos, drink coffee, window lick, get some headspace

T.L. Holmes said...

If I'm to be honest, I stay in bed. That's right, I call in sick to work and stay in bed (mind you, this doesn't happen often). I've also been known to blare music, and drink gallons of Starbucks (the new Dark Cherry Mocha is DE.LISH.)
Perhaps I wear jeans and a sweatshirt to work that day, and have an ornery activity in class like having my students write about cruddy days, crumple it up, toss it in the middle into a pile, then they read them aloud and guess who wrote it. It's funny, and it can help turn my day around. Well, that's my deal. Hope the day gets better...get some sunshine on your face (that helps me lots, too).

Lori Z. said...

I give myself an uninterrupted hour (or two!) in my art studio. Close the door, turn on the iPod, do NOT answer the phone, and create whatever I'm moved to create, no "have tos," no checking anything off a list. When I emerge, the entire world looks better!

Lisa Gallup said...

Yoga or a walk outside if it's nice. Sometimes just a hot shower and getting dressed for the day helps as well. ((hugs)) Or just say "screw it" and run away for a play day! :D

Express said...

I usually call my husband, he always knows how to make upside down right side up! And I try to remember the lyrics to one of my favorite songs by Francesca Battistelli " 'Cause I got a couple dents in my fender, Got a couple rips in my jeans
Try to fit the pieces together, But perfection is my enemy..."

Lauren said...

I love your daughter's drawings! I'm an artist in teacher-school and I'm a huge fan of kid art.

In the mornings, the crapass ones are generally felt by all. We're all freaking out. At some point a little of the fog in my brain clears and I can see what's going on. The boys are looking at me, they don't want to have a crappy morning.

We've gotten into the habit of asking to start over. Usually it's me, but sometimes my middle-(wild)-child will ask for a start over too. We then compose ourselves and try our best to do better. Sometimes it's a miracle.

(Here's my blog address, we have some fun adventures! http://wainwrightsanslofti.blogspot.com/)

Christy said...

Like to the power of 2.

cactus petunia said...

I take the dogs for a loooong walk, usually stopping at Starbucks for a mocha. Then I come home and vacuum!
Hey, it's better than kicking the dogs, spilling my coffee, and thinking everything sucks!

Wishing you sunny skies for the rest of your day...

Miranda said...

I literally grab hold of the countertop (somehow I'm always in the kitchen when things fall apart--or is it just that I live my life in the kitchen?) and take a full, conscious breath. I remind myself that whatever is going on is probably something that I won't even remember next week--and will surely have forgotten by next year. Buying into the drama (or creating my own) just makes everyone feel worse (including myself). If that doesn't do it, I pretend that there's a video camera recording the scene and I'd better act in such a way that I won't cringe on the playback. (This is called using mother-guilt to your advantage.)

L'Atelier said...

oh i sure hope your morning has turned around, that you had a fab day!

i had a rubbish morning yesterday, so just went back to bed! yep i did!! ignored the world, the work that was mounting and had another 2hours of sleep, then went to my fav coffeeshop had 2 (yes! 2!) cups of coffee strolled to the library got a travelbook out...
by then the morning had passed and the rest of my day was really productive and nice :):):)
hugs
xo

trinsch said...

usually my crappiest mornings have to do with not enough time and kids feeling the stress and stalling the tight schedule, completely making me nuts and close to crying, feeling like yelling, knowing it will make everything even worse. unless completely impossible, i try to restart mornings by just saying f..., we'll be late, really late. and then just take that extra time to calm things down, hug a kiddo and drink another coffee. i hope you're feeling better by now.

suzanne cabrera said...

I'm having the same kind of day...week in fact. It wasn't until 3:30 this afternoon that I finally started to feel my mojo pick up!

Here's hoping their is comfort in knowing you are not alone in the misery!

la ninja said...

oh no, no, honey, you don't try to turn them round. you just cross your fingers, hope, clap in peter pan fashion and wait until, sooner or later, THEY (the "crap-ass mornings", your words, not mine) decide to flip YOU over and out of your silly strop ;)

french alps.

Estelle said...

Oh Aimee, that must have been one h**l of a morning... That's not like you. What I do is cuss everything and everyone out (provided nobody's around!) and then grab my stuff, get in the car and go to the Merc' for a yummy drink and biscotti. There's always someone to be nice to ('cause it's not their fault after all!) By then I have a brand-new attitude and I can start the day over.
What YOU should do, however, on a crappy-ass day is come see little Sonam. He'll make you feel like a million $!

Phoenix Peacock said...

Start with breathing in peace and exhaling out stress - with visual meditation to boot.
Then tea and a lavender candle while eating chocolate and sublimating all those nasty feeling onto art usually by either 1) making a soothing painting that requires repetive strokes/motions (2) making an angry messy painting to get the frustration out or (3) ripping and tearing out images from magazines to collage which I find is soothing and releases frustration!

Sheep Rustler said...

Nothing original or creative I'm afraid - coffee and chocolate work for me!

Megan Walker said...

Let's see... favorite music is a biggie. My dogs, blogs that inspire me, creating something, and of course eating Ruffles :) I also love to come here and learn new words. Recent examples:

1) foofery
2) bosshole
2) crap-ass

xoxo

peggyfussell said...

So sorry you had a crap-ass morning. What works for me is primal screaming in the shower... I like to call it singing (for me there's not much difference) or a long walk to nowhere.

alix said...

eyee eyee eyee, aimee. i feel ya! Re-Do! and it's only tuesday.
Today I thought Marlowe wanted to give me a hug, but oh no. I bent down to receive said hug and when her skull wound up up my nose I thought the space shuttle had launched into my head. Wouldn't have been so bad if we weren't 4 blocks from home without a tissue. So when my nose started to gush blood I opened the lid to my starbucks and just let 'er bleed into the 'devil juice'. Then a passer-by kindly said, 'it might be broken'. All I could think was: that's what I need a Crooked Freaking Nose! At least it's not Monday.

Heather said...

donuts
and I do mean with an "s" at the end
whoever said you shouldn't eat to make yourself feel better didn't live within close proximity of a Dunkin' Donuts with a drive-thru window
'nuf said

Sharon said...

Creation is what I do when I begin to think about mayhem or pulling my hair out. As long as I sit and work in my journal a few minutes, the bad thoughts go away. Ahhh!!!

Kathy said...

Boy do I know how you feel.
Glad to see a fellow "kansan" blogging.

Lhia said...

I have a FUN SONGS playlist in itunes... I turn it on, turn it up
and spend some time just enjoying the music and refocusing and ... then I start again.

Natasha said...

Drink.

LOL...just joshin' this preggo can't do that right now...so I eat lots of chocolate - who cares that it's not even 8am - then I get back in bed (with the chocolate) and start over in a few hours...LOL

Aww Aimee!! That's terrible...I'm sorry your day didn't start out well...I sincerely hope it got better as the day went on...I send you warm hugs...and chocolate...


AND a massive thank you for listing my e-course on your sidebar...you rock in a major way

alix said...

oh oh oh, I wasn't supposed to compare my crap-ass-morning I was supposed to tell you how I pull myself out... ok, ummmm, that one might take a bit more doing. The schnoz is fine (thanks) and yes, as you may have guessed, a margarita pulled me out of the slumps! Don't worry, I waited 'til after 5pm (5pm in singapore!)

Alex said...

I like to retreat to my fluffy bed and cuddle my puppy and my oldest friend, T. Bear. If that doesn't help, then I destroy something. Wishing you many happier mornings!

Candied Fabrics said...

Aiyiyi! I hear you! And looks like a lot of other folks have plenty of crap-ass mornings - I know I do!

What I've learned from working (which is teaching biology to non-majors in the morning...used to be 8 AM! Now 9:30, still plenty early for them) is to fake it until I make it! If I have low energy or a bad mood in the classroom it comes right back to me...If I fake my crazy zany self I eventually get out of my funk.

I need to learn how to do this on days when I'm not teaching....

Anyway, keep on keepin on gal, we're know and understand where you're at!

Gracia said...

8am and already the morning, the day, completely awry... ah, yes, familiar to me that sounds. Very.

Pixie Campbell said...

Dork on parade, right here: I have to put on either the Beatles or something like Southern Culture on the Skids, crank it up and silly myself out of Shitsville. The kids get into it and it's the only way I can shake the cranks. Blowing off negative energy by raising it up always works better for me than trying to quiet it down. It's that Coyote trickery that keeps me sane about myself. Without it, I'd be calling you from the ledge...
:)

Eden said...

If my day starts off wrong!! I journal in my personal journal. The one for my eyes only! It'll usually get me back on track! Hope you have a better day today!

chelseadagger said...

OH OH OH I love your cut & paste bookmarks. Cutting up a magazine and losing myself in rearranging the pieces is one of my favorite things to do, too.

Since I work M-F, there aren't many options for me on bad mornings - can't go for a walk, can't do yoga, can't play loud music, etc etc -- so the #1 thing I do to turn my morning around is blog about it. Words are the ultimate release for me. As soon as I put everything (and I mean everything. On especially bad things, this means every last little detail in scathing prose) into words, it's released as if I dropped a heavy stone into the ocean.

here's hoping for a cut & paste bookmark, cause that would make MY morning pretty fabulous.

Anairam said...

There is absolutely nothing to be done about a crap-ass morning. You just have to grit your teeth (you are allowed to emit little groans and grunts as time passes) until midday, and then, magically, it is over!

Vicki Holdwick said...

When I have a crap-ass morning (and thankfully they are few and far between), I get on the treadmill for 30 minutes of fast walking uphill.

I do some of my best planning and getting over bad beginnings while I pant and sweat.

xoxo

~Valentina~ said...

Chocolate ALWAYS helps... but usually I just go back to bed :P

rachel awes said...

oooh, i too recently had a crap-ass morning. it depends on what the crap is about. that day, it was about feeling stressed with 101 things to do! so i gave myself the morning to get as much done as possible & promised myself a window after lunch of only lovely things. that helped some. then, sometimes spontaneous gifts come in that i didn't plan, but help!..like i had a client tell me something that i found so inspiring & i could actually feel my crappy disposition begin to physically change in that moment!
anyway...those are some off the top ramblings!!!

Alexandra Hedberg said...

"start over again ... " that's great!

I'm totally exhausted and can not write anything about how to turn a crap morning around ... just wanted to take in your energy and say hi.

Hi

Inner Toddler said...

i take another shower. pita with nutella works well too. but not in the shower. soggy.