Monday, March 30, 2009

a good kind of wallowing


mood management is a tricky business. sometimes i can stave off a lousy mood by changing my environment or playing games with my mind, but when a dear friend mentioned a few weeks ago that she was wallowing in her own funk, it hit me that, well, sometimes i too just have to dwell in the yuck for a bit for life to return to normal.

22 comments:

cindy : quaint said...

sometimes, stuff is crummy and you're better off just embracing it. occasionally, doing that alone makes me feel better. i think it's a control-thing ;)?

BT said...

What a wonderful expression!! Funnily enough, when my husband is miserable, I call him Grumple Funks!!

Shell said...

Yes, wallowing can be a good thing.

Kelly C. said...

oh, i agree.... i think that the funk is usually there to teach us something (that's what i tell myself... i was in a major funk last wed & thu). here's hoping your funk is one to grow on!! XOXO

Krissy said...

yes, i agree. a funk is something you need so you appreciate the non-funk times :)

painted fish studio said...

i've been wallowing in a funk for weeks now. hurry up spring, i need you to pull me out!

Bella Sinclair said...

Oh, yes, yes, I agree with Krissy!

You know, the crows here are massive. And sometimes, when I take a walk, I can hear them talking. Sometimes they make a sound, and I SWEAR they're saying, "Wallow, wallow."

steve said...

Yeah, I hate when this happens. What usually works for me is a good brisk walk around town. With the warmer weather and sights and sounds of life again, they've been especially helpful. Excellent work expressing this Aimee.

That Girl Designs said...

my sentiments exactly!

Milkberry said...

Is that a girl with pins on her head? I hope you'll be okay soon, after you embrace the funk!

jess gonacha said...

yes, i think that the problems come when you try to resist the funk. if you just let it be, it eventually loses its power!

alissa said...

im with you - sometimes just embracing the funk makes it go away faster. and at least while im in it, i dont feel guilty if i just let myself be there.

kj said...

a wise woman you are, aimee...

Suana said...

Yeah, self induced wallowing and a good dosage of self pity can feel really intense and masochistic-ly good. But I don't think that this would benefit anyone for too long a period... What I found a good solution, after a few days of real bitching, whining and wallowing in my own funk, is to write in the morning pages all that ails and eventually the mind and the hand writing gets bored of it and looks for solutions..
and yes, a good brisk walk in nature might clear the darkness...

Hope you'll see the sun soon Aimee!
xo
Suana

~Barb~ said...

Yep...me, too. Sometimes it just has to be done...go through it instead of around it. *shrug*
Peace & Love,
♥ Barb ♥

●• Tiny Red said...

mood management... yeah, i could do with some of that...

Esti said...

I don't know if I get the idea... wallowing...
well, mood managing would be great to learn...

trinsch said...

love it! and agree with cindy : quaint: sometimes it makes you feel better letting go and embracing it instead of fighting . it's ok.

Aris said...

The world always looks a lot brighter after a good funk.

aimee said...

indeed it does! time limits on funks help, too, so one doesn't wallow TOO long. thank you all for wallowing with me.

L'Atelier said...

i also agree, my friend and me call it: freeing the inner tiger out, roaring and being in a bad mood, just simply indulging a little bit in - will let it go free!
i completly get where you coming from! hope today the sun is shining brighter again :)
xo

heather smith jones said...

AMEN!
wollowing w/ you.